The Difference Between Winners and Losers

When a loser/hater sees a winner winning, his first and only reaction is to deem the winner's winning 'unfair,' simply because the loser is unwilling to focus his anger and scrutiny where it really belongs--on HIMSELF.

If the loser would dare look past the winner's surface and consider the possibility that the winner is winning as a result of hard work, mental discipline and perseverance, he might learn something. But the loser/hater doesn't (or is unable to), and thus he remains a loser and a hater, doomed to stand on the sidelines complaining about how only the jerks get girls, how nice guys always finish last, etc., for the rest of his impotent life.

I used to feel the way that losers feel, viscerally, every time I would see a winner winning. Like a knee-jerk reflex. Then, one day, I asked myself: "Why do I feel this way when these people don't affect me whatsoever?" Of course, I had to admit to myself that there was only one answer--jealousy. From that day forward, I made a point to laud the winners when they won, and--most importantly--to try to learn from their example. To get insight into their frame of mind.

And that was when something crazy began to happen--I started to win too.

Nowadays, when I hear of Donald Trump cutting another multi-million dollar deal? P. Diddy hitting another success with his clothing line? Jay-Z having another hit album? Some celebrity/athlete bedding a gorgeous starlet? I say good for them, they deserve it. And then I visualize myself riding the same winning mentality that they possess, and my life continues on its upward climb. A concept that the lazy losers/haters standing on the sidelines will never--and don't deserve to---understand.

Three Books That Will Change Your Life.

AKA, "Three Books That Every Straight Man Must Read." Years ago, I was fortunate to run into someone who recommended these three books to me. Here they are, in order of recommended reading:

First is "The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature." In order to begin to understand why people are the way we are, you have to understand where we came from--from a psychological perspective. Regardless of what current trendy BS is being propagated about how "society" affects the way men and women act, the author here demonstrates that there are biological truths about us as human beings that have been constant all along, and that will never go away. Reading the second half of this book was one of the most eye-opening experiences of my adult life, and enlightened me as to why men and women interact the way they do.

http://www.amazon.com/Red-Queen-Evolution-Human-Nature/dp/0060556579/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264269720&sr=8-1

Next is "The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed." This book is controversial, much criticized, and simply one amongst a sea of competitors and impostors, but I believe that it is probably the single best window into the world of understanding women from a pick-up perspective. Put simply, if you are a guy who has difficulty getting the type of girls you want, then you need to study and absorb this book. Mystery put this together as the result of an enormous amount of effort, practice, and observation, and as far as I'm concerned, it's worth its weight in gold. Personally, there are a lot of things about the Mystery Method that I'm not willing to go along with--e.g., wearing ridiculous clothes, using lots of canned material, etc.--but regardless, the principles that underlie this book are solid as a rock.

http://www.amazon.com/Mystery-Method-Beautiful-Women-Into/dp/0312360118/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264271106&sr=1-1

Finally is "The Way of the Superior Man," which is required for understanding women once you've actually entered into a relationship with them. The term "Superior Man" has nothing to do with being superior to women--rather, it means becoming superior to the man you used to be, meaning more like "exemplary." Reading through this book, I felt like I was watching a "This Is Your Life" TV show which should've been entitled "This Is Everything You've Done Wrong in Past Relationships!" The author here explains, in a kind and insightful way, how to deal with female behavior as a man so as to (1) keep your girlfriend/wife enthralled with you and (2) keep the spark between the two of you alive for as long as possible. After implementing this book into my life, maintaining a successful long term relationship became like second nature to me. No longer was I left to wonder "What went wrong?," because now I understood how to do everything right.

http://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-David-Deida/dp/1591792576/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264271558&sr=1-1

So there they are, in order of learning how to: (1) understand girls; (2) get them; and (2) keep them. If you are a straight man and you read these three books carefully, I guarantee you will never view the world the same again.

Brooklyn Love is All About Japanese Hostess Love

This blog has quickly degraded into a running monologue of my unhealthy preoccupation with Japanese chicks.

Continuing with that theme, here is a quick video example of why Japanese hostesses and their hair rule my world.

When I lived in Osaka, one of my main girlfriends, who was a hostess, used to take a cab to my place straight after work at 3am with her hair still done up like this. It was the greatest thing ever.

This is a Man's World...

... just like James Brown said.

In my observations, I have to say, in the long run, when it comes down to a standoff between a man and a woman, the man almost always comes out on top.

Every once in a while I think back to my first (and I guess only) 'big' breakup and heartbreak. It took place in my early twenties, probably the time when it ends up happening to most people I would guess.

She was a buxom, half-asian stripper (hold up, I know what you're thinking, but the truth is she didn't start stripping until after we started dating - when I induced her to do it, but that's another story), who one of my friends described as physically 'flawless.' Once the money and attention from stripping went to her head, predictably, she lost patience with my Kevin Federline act and told me to hit the road.

At the time of course, I thought the world was falling down around me. Really, I was devastated - in fact, it took almost a year to really pull myself back together again. However, looking back at that time, now almost a decade later, I did learn several things.

First, time heals all wounds. Now I know that is never any consolation at the time, when you're suffering, but it's true.

Second, and more importantly however, is that life and the world is tilted in a man's favor. Take a look at most high-profile breakups: Kevin Federline and Britney, Justin Timberlake and whoever, Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston, etc., and nine times out of ten, what you will see is the woman ends up the loser in the long run, granted that the guy recovers his game and regains his stride.

Yes, in the long run, after you're dumped, you may feel like you're at rock bottom, you may view yourself as a laughing stock, and for that short time you might even be right - I know I was. Hell, look at Kevin Federline, who was considered a bigger joke than him? Now who do you think is laughing? Not Britney, that's for sure.

What guys need to realize, is that if you had enough game to get your 'lost' girl in the first place, then you are good enough to get the equivalent or even better in the future. Remember - success is the best revenge.

As of today, just like the guys in those high profile couples, after recouping and concentrating on my game, I have been with and turned down large numbers of women equal to and better than my ex, in every way. I'm now with a girl who is at least as attractive as my ex, with a personality that's about ten times better. In the last six years or so up until now, I feel like I've lived a love life that the vast majority of men can only fantasize about, and yet I still feel like my value to females increases daily as I get older, more experienced, more financially secure, and more confident.

As for my ex? The 'flawless' one? She's now a single mother, rapidly approaching thirty. How valuable do you think she is on the dating market?

So if you find yourself in a position where you are feeling like you have lost everything because your girl has left you, if you feel like there's nothing left and that you can't go on, I can tell you from my own personal experience - you're wrong. Feel the pain, acknowledge it, and realize that it is only temporary. It will only be a matter of time before you are able to start planning your next big move.


"The best thing for being sad," replied Merlyn, beginning to puff and blow, "is to learn something. That is the only thing that never fails. You may grow old and trembling in your anatomies, you may lie awake at night listening to the disorder of your veins, you may miss your only love, you may see the world about you devastated by evil lunatics, or know your honour trampled in the sewers of baser minds. There is only one thing for it then--to learn. Learn why the world wags and what wags it. That is the only thing which the mind can never exhaust, never alienate, never be tortured by, never fear or distrust, and never dream of regretting. Learning is the thing for you."

Merlyn, advising the young King Arthur in T. H. White's The Once and Future King.

Love is a Losing Game...

I know this is just recycled '60s stuff a la Dusty Springfield, but I'll let that slide since it's such a nice song to sway to. Not to mention, Amy Winehouse looks a lot like a Japanese hostess, which makes everything alright.