Memories Make Me Want to Go Back There..

I think we can all relate to the feeling of not wanting a good time or period in our lives to come to an end. However, it hasn't been very often, over the years, that I've actually found myself trying to dig my fingernails into time in a futile effort to keep it from slipping away, every day, like it does, all because I dreaded the feeling of knowing that, with each passing day, I was traveling farther and farther away from so many good times I had in the past. Nowadays, though, it seems as though that's what I find myself doing. Constantly.

The past eight months have gone by like a blur. With that, I'm slowly getting used to the idea that being an adult means not having enough time to do, well, anything. Let alone enjoy any of it. I can only hope that with the passing of a little more time I'll begin to feel more like a participating member of the world again.

Twelve years ago this month, I was a kid working a short-lived blue-collar gig on the Brooklyn Bridge. Wearing an orange jumpsuit and hardhat every day, running back and forth on the Bridge's narrow catwalk a hundred or so times a day like some sort of frantic squirrel on a telephone wire. Looking back, it was a pretty fitting representation of my life at the time. I had absolutely no idea where I was going.

The Difference Between Winners and Losers

When a loser/hater sees a winner winning, his first and only reaction is to deem the winner's winning 'unfair,' simply because the loser is unwilling to focus his anger and scrutiny where it really belongs--on HIMSELF.

If the loser would dare look past the winner's surface and consider the possibility that the winner is winning as a result of hard work, mental discipline and perseverance, he might learn something. But the loser/hater doesn't (or is unable to), and thus he remains a loser and a hater, doomed to stand on the sidelines complaining about how only the jerks get girls, how nice guys always finish last, etc., for the rest of his impotent life.

I used to feel the way that losers feel, viscerally, every time I would see a winner winning. Like a knee-jerk reflex. Then, one day, I asked myself: "Why do I feel this way when these people don't affect me whatsoever?" Of course, I had to admit to myself that there was only one answer--jealousy. From that day forward, I made a point to laud the winners when they won, and--most importantly--to try to learn from their example. To get insight into their frame of mind.

And that was when something crazy began to happen--I started to win too.

Nowadays, when I hear of Donald Trump cutting another multi-million dollar deal? P. Diddy hitting another success with his clothing line? Jay-Z having another hit album? Some celebrity/athlete bedding a gorgeous starlet? I say good for them, they deserve it. And then I visualize myself riding the same winning mentality that they possess, and my life continues on its upward climb. A concept that the lazy losers/haters standing on the sidelines will never--and don't deserve to---understand.

Three Books That Will Change Your Life.

AKA, "Three Books That Every Straight Man Must Read." Years ago, I was fortunate to run into someone who recommended these three books to me. Here they are, in order of recommended reading:

First is "The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature." In order to begin to understand why people are the way we are, you have to understand where we came from--from a psychological perspective. Regardless of what current trendy BS is being propagated about how "society" affects the way men and women act, the author here demonstrates that there are biological truths about us as human beings that have been constant all along, and that will never go away. Reading the second half of this book was one of the most eye-opening experiences of my adult life, and enlightened me as to why men and women interact the way they do.

http://www.amazon.com/Red-Queen-Evolution-Human-Nature/dp/0060556579/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264269720&sr=8-1

Next is "The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed." This book is controversial, much criticized, and simply one amongst a sea of competitors and impostors, but I believe that it is probably the single best window into the world of understanding women from a pick-up perspective. Put simply, if you are a guy who has difficulty getting the type of girls you want, then you need to study and absorb this book. Mystery put this together as the result of an enormous amount of effort, practice, and observation, and as far as I'm concerned, it's worth its weight in gold. Personally, there are a lot of things about the Mystery Method that I'm not willing to go along with--e.g., wearing ridiculous clothes, using lots of canned material, etc.--but regardless, the principles that underlie this book are solid as a rock.

http://www.amazon.com/Mystery-Method-Beautiful-Women-Into/dp/0312360118/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264271106&sr=1-1

Finally is "The Way of the Superior Man," which is required for understanding women once you've actually entered into a relationship with them. The term "Superior Man" has nothing to do with being superior to women--rather, it means becoming superior to the man you used to be, meaning more like "exemplary." Reading through this book, I felt like I was watching a "This Is Your Life" TV show which should've been entitled "This Is Everything You've Done Wrong in Past Relationships!" The author here explains, in a kind and insightful way, how to deal with female behavior as a man so as to (1) keep your girlfriend/wife enthralled with you and (2) keep the spark between the two of you alive for as long as possible. After implementing this book into my life, maintaining a successful long term relationship became like second nature to me. No longer was I left to wonder "What went wrong?," because now I understood how to do everything right.

http://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-David-Deida/dp/1591792576/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264271558&sr=1-1

So there they are, in order of learning how to: (1) understand girls; (2) get them; and (2) keep them. If you are a straight man and you read these three books carefully, I guarantee you will never view the world the same again.

Conclusions

"For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring."--Carl Sagan

The older and more experienced I get, the more convinced I become that a very large percentage of people in this world prefer to form arbitrary conclusions about the world around them, based on what goes on inside their own heads, and then attempt to shoehorn the world into their conclusions, as opposed to carefully observing the world first and then basing their conclusions off of the reality that's happening in front of them.

I think that may explain why, as a whole, we can never seem to learn anything.

Don't Flatter Yourself...

Don't flatter yourself, don't think I'm a fool
Just because you walk talk and act so cool.
Don't flatter yourself, got too big for your britches
Little boys like you can be the biggest bitches.
Don't flatter yourself...

Flatter me.

--Author Unknown